Don’t Panic, But You’re Going to Freak Out!
Planning a wedding is stressful, and even if you think you have everything under control, you are going to freak out at some point. Don’t panic, we’ve got you covered. Stress is completely normal during the wedding planing process, as are a few “freak-out” moments.
Here’s our handy guide to managing your emotions before the big day!
Step One: Communicate your worries and wins
There’s a lot that goes into pulling off your dream wedding. You have vendors left, right and centre and payments popping up faster than RSVPs! To keep your head on straight, keep track of everything on hand-written to-do lists (sometimes the act of writing, pen to paper, is calming) and most importantly go over everything with your soon-to-be spouse.
If you are stressed about the bar tab for 200 guests, discuss cash bar alternatives or limited drink menus. Once you finalize a step, celebrate it and bask in your success. The more you focus on wins the less you’ll obsess over worries.
Step Two: Reach out when you downward spiral
You just can’t get the tables to come together and people keep making special requests. You parents don’t want to sit with this aunt or uncle and you can’t put those friends together because they recently separated. Yikes! It can seem like there’s no way out and before you know it you’re yelling at the venue attendant because he didn’t follow the drawing you sent him.
Calm down and call your person. Maybe that’s your mom, maybe it’s your maid-of-honour or maybe it’s your fiancé. Talk it through, realize it’s not as bad as it seems and breathe your way through it until you’re level-headed again.
Step Three: Focus on the moment and forget the plan
The day of your wedding will go nothing like you planned, I hate to break it to you. As an obsessive planner, I couldn’t fathom how anything could slip through my grasp, but alas, it did. Rain ruins photoshoot locations. DJs don’t always play the songs you specifically request. Last minute wedding dress alterations that look good at first seem botched in photos.
None of this matters in the end as long as you focus on the moment and your feelings during every step of your wedding day. Anytime you feel stress creeping up or if anything runs behind schedule, just take a step back and tell yourself, “it doesn’t matter what I had planned for today, this is it, it’s happening this way and there’s nothing I can do about it, so I better enjoy it as much as possible.”